Thursday, October 15, 2015

The Beauty in the Unexpected

I have never been much of a planner. I used to be. I used to plan everything down to a tee weeks in advance. I'd pencil in dinner dates, nights out, coffee sessions and brunch with my girls well in advance until one day, in my 20s, I noticed that my plans started to not follow through more and more.

beige sweater from Uniqlo / dragon egg necklace from Fandom Trinkets / brown leather boyfriend watch from Fossil / floral skirt from Forever 21 / black leather owl bag from H&M / black strappy heels from Zalora

I used to just adapt to the changes that happened, but after I got pregnant, my entire life's plan had to change and that's when I started scoffing at everyone who bothered to ask me, "Where do you see yourself in 5 years?" Guess what, honey. It doesn't matter because no matter what you envision for yourself in 5 years, it ain't gonna happen.

Now, I don't mean to be a party pooper here. On the contrary, my point is actually quite the positive one: if plans don't push through, don't sweat it. Better yet, don't make any plans at all and just take life one day at a time and each day one hour at a time.

Nowadays, whenever someone asks me, "What are you doing tomorrow?" Most of the time, my answer is, "I don't plan that far ahead." Because I really don't. Anything could happen. You could get a fever out of nowhere. You could unexpectedly get stuck in traffic. You could run out of phone battery. And then all of your plans will have to change or vanish.

Ideally, your mindset should focus more on having fun and enjoying each moment as opposed to planning everything out to a tee. Be prepared for change because it could come at any time. Be flexible enough to go with the flow because you never know what might come up.

My boyfriend Vincent is a planner. He has been since we started dating. Funnily enough, though, every single thing that he has planned throughout our relationship has never pushed through. When I pointed this out to him just yesterday, he denied it and then sat there for a while trying to think of a plan of his that pushed through. He couldn't think of a single thing.

And that's my point. These outfit shots of ours? Completely spontaneous. The road just happened to be close to empty and I thought it would make for a nice backdrop for some photos. The result? A lot of laughter and unforgettable moments. And those are the things that you should focus on and strive for in life: the good times, the giggles, the priceless memories that you make when you aren't stressing about your plans.

Sometimes, life just won't hand you a bone. Be okay with that. Once you learn to accept that plans just don't always happen the way you want them to, you'll live a much more stress-free life. And trust me: you'll be smiling a whole lot more, too.